Disappointed Once Again

The ex of all exes really knows how to push my buttons.  Just when I thought he was getting his act together and stepping up to the plate, he throws a curve ball and pisses the living shit out of me once again.

I’m not sure what it is going to take for me to stop being disappointed by his actions, but it still hurts.  It hurts to the point where it makes tears swell up in my eyes.  I know I have done so much to help him, support him through the toughest times he has had and when he lets me down by backing out of something he said he would do, it rips at my heart.  It feels so disrespectful and I’m not sure how someone that has taken so much from me could do that.  There is simply no regard for me in his eyes.  I wish I could blow him off, never help him again, but I know, the minute he comes crawling back to me in need of something, I won’t have the heart to deny him.

Why am I so weak?  How can one person have such an effect on me?  Someone…please save me from this lopsided relationship!

Ray

Beer and Bacon!

Who doesn’t love beer and bacon.  As we found out, they are a delicious combo!!!!  Instead of our normal happy hour at a bar, we decided to buy a Living Social deal for a beer/bacon tasting (4 beers, 4 bacon dishes).  The event was held at the new Living Social space where they host a variety of classes (ie: Wine/Painting, Yoga, etc).  It is in a very convenient location (918 F St, NW) and the space was transformed in a very hip/sleek way!  The staff is friendly and welcoming which made the whole experience worthwhile.

On the menu: black pepper maple glaze applewood-smoked bacon with Danish blue cheese, local turkey bacon with apple confit with four-year Vermont cheddar, bacon basil blue cheese-stuffed dates, and barbecue spiced artisan grilled hickory bacon.

I don’t enjoy blue cheese so two out of the four dishes were misses for me.  But I really enjoyed the bacon w/apple and cheese!  J and Ten liked the barbecue bacon a lot.  The date dish was everyone’s least favorite in our group.  We learned a lot about beer and I learned I still don’t like beers with citrus or coffee undertones.

Overall it was a great class and a good change from our normal routine.  I highly recommend you get over to the Living Social space to partake in one of their deals.

Ray

Do I Look Mean?

It has come to my attention that even those closest and dearest to me at one point found me intimidating. Now, I hope they don’t still feel that way but I heard it several times this weekend and well, I was taken aback. I don’t think I’m intimidating but I also know that I am AWESOME.

Basically, my brother told me that his new “honey pot” (I refuse to call her his girlfriend) is very shy and wants to impress me. Good for you! I want to be impressed, let’s do this. But alas, he also told me that she thinks I’m too classy (as if!) and is slightly afraid of me. I asked my friends and they said I can be pretty sassy. My male friends agreed as well. They said I am intimidating because I’m so social. WTF does that mean? If I’m social, doesn’t that mean you WANT to talk to me?

I don’t get it. I’m social, fun but intimidating? What am I doing? How can I be more open? Help me!!

J

Meant to be? Long distance lovers are reconnected….

One of our loyal followers posed the following question and is seeking our advice (and yours)!

What do you think is an appropriate “off” period for two exes to “see other people” because you don’t want to try long distance and then you somehow come back to the same region (!!) and he initiates contact? Is it just a friendship? Is it bad to get back in a relationship with an ex when the only reason you broke up is because one of you moved away and refused to do long distance??

And how can you balance all of this with new career going on??? So far we’ve only talked on the phone and grabbed coffee and ice cream…I’m in a new area and I really don’t want to lose him as a friend right now…

In my opinion, I think you should continue to talk on the phone and hang out.  See where it goes because maybe it is meant to be!  I mean, come on, you both happen to end up in the same area after the break-up?!?!?!  Maybe that is destiny speaking to you.  I wouldn’t rule it out, but take things slow and see what happens.  No reason to push him away at this point.

Readers, do you have any sounds words of wisdom for our follower?

Ray

Dinner at Bandolero

Bandolero- 3241 M St NW

Shed and I have decided to try a new restaurant on the first Thursday of every month.  We both really wanted to hit up Mike Isabella’s restaurant (Bandolero) in Georgetown.  We made reservations for 6:00pm, the place definitely had a lot of open seats when we arrived.  They have two floors with very earthy, mid-western decor.  The servers are casual in black tees/jeans, friendly and attentive.

Since this is another one of his small plate restaurants, Shed and I planned out what we were going to share beforehand so our decision making time at the restaurant was quick.  She started off with a margaritta, I really wanted a glass of cold ice tea, but they don’t have ice tea.  Sad panda.  Our food choices were as follows….

Appetizer- House made corn nuts and Totopos (tortilla chips, ranchera, crema):  The corn nuts were an unexpected surprise!  The Totopos was good, pretty spicy, but as we got deeper into the pile of chips they were very soggy.  Not necessarily my cup of tea, but they still had a good flavor.

Taco:Crispy Mahi Mahi w/chipotle, avocado, lime: Delish!

Traditional Plates: Empanada (corn, potato, jack cheese, poblano escabeche)- no picture taken.  It was really good!  I keep forgetting we ordered it, but I really did enjoy this item.  The cheese was gooey and the peppers served under the empanada enhanced the dish nicely. Sopes w/lamb picadillo, chipotle goat cheese- at this point I was so full so only ate one of my Sopes.  It was very good.  I loved the combination of lamb with goat cheese.  Very unexpected and presented very nicely.

Side Dish- Crispy Yuca w/citrus salsa, chipotle mayo: A little dry, but still tasty!

We spent close to $70 with tax/tip so it’s not a cheap evening, but for tapas I feel like it was worth it!  There is some serious mood lighting going on so it would be a good place for a date.  I would definitely go back and recommend that you try it too.   I’m interested in trying the crab taquito, flauta and nachos!  Who wants to go with me???

Ray

Summer in DC

This is my third summer in the city. I love doing Jazz in the Garden, rooftop bars, drum circle on Meridian Hill, etc. But I’m looking for something a little different this summer.

The humidity and heat have been killer this year. And above all things, I really don’t like sweating, but who does? And don’t get me started on my hair! Ugh, the humidity wrecks havoc!

So in the name of all things fun, any ideas on what to do this summer that requires little sweat or something SO fun that I will forget the humidity, heat and sunburn?

J

Listening to Your Heart vs Your Head

I have had many ups and downs lately when it comes to the love department.  I feel like I have become bi-polar with my emotions!  I’ve talked through my relationship with friends and family, but it seems like everyone has a different piece of advice to offer or a separate way to handle different situations.  I’ve actually come to the realization that the more people I talk to, the more confusing it is for me to sort through my feelings.

And now onto the topic of sorting through my feelings….I can’t decide if I should listen to my heart or listen to my head.  They are both screaming different things at me and the more I try to rationalize what I want to do, the more my heart pounds telling me to stick with it and it will all work out if it is meant to be.  Do you believe if it is meant to be it will work out in the end?  I honestly do, but how far does one go to make it work?  I’ve never been one to give up without a fight when it comes to a relationship, but without some compromise I don’t know how much more fight I have in me.  Only time will tell….but time is running out so I hope I can figure this out soon.

Ray