Losing my Focus

If you’re anything like me, your attention span is pretty limited. I’ve found that as I get older (or I could be noticing it more), I have trouble focusing. My mind travels a million miles a minute with thousands of different thoughts resulting in hundreds of various scenarios  Most of time I’m yelling at myself to focus!

Not to mention, the ridiculous work vs personal life struggle that happens in my head. When I’m at work, I can’t stop thinking about my personal life but when I’m at home, I can’t stop thinking about my professional life. WHEN WILL THIS MADNESS END!?

Do you have any suggestions or things that helped you stay focused and calm? The stress is starting to get to me.

A very thankful,
J

Happy Hour at Dickson Wine Bar

Dickson Wine Bar- 903 U Street, NW

We haven’t done a happy hour post in a while, mostly because I’ve been slacking on taking pictures at places we have gone.  J recommended this place (she went on a first date here) and I was excited to try it, except for the fact that the website has no information to offer.  Don’t they know I enjoy planning out what food/drinks I’m going to order?!

As I’m looking at the website now, they don’t open until 6:00pm which must be why the staff were scattered about with their own food/drinks at various tables.  They quickly cleaned up when we arrived and were fairly attentive.  The menu had a variety of apps, cheese and some amazing banh mi sandwiches.  We ordered the carrot dip and a short rib banh mi!  It was my first time trying both of these items and I definitely cannot wait to go back and get another Vietnamese sandwich.

The happy hour specials-$5 carrot dip and hummus; a variety of drinks for $5 as well.  I highly recommend going to try this place out!

 

Pet Peeve: Chronic Cellphoner

I struggle with proper manners when it comes to cell phone usage. Here are my big pet peeves about cell (smartphone) usage. I’ve been guilty of few of these but I’m working on bettering my manners and I think you should too. No one’s perfect, but we can be a little nicer and quieter…

You know when you’re riding the metro (subway for you non-DMV locals), 9 out 10 people are using their electronic devices to pass the time, which I’m prone to do as well. But, there’s that one loud talker, you know who I’m talking about, the one yelling to the phone so that everyone can hear. I’m looking at you and I’m absolutely judging you. Pipe down!

At a restaurant, if you’re having dinner with friends, family, whomever, put your phone away! Enjoy the conversation, take a second and enjoy the company! Do you seriously need to tweet or post on facebook the picture of your dinner plate right this second? No, you don’t. If I see you with your cellphone at dinner, you’re never invited again. (Unless there’s an emergency…FINE). Same goes for happy hour or any bar setting. I definitely get that there are exceptions to the rule but come on, have a little fun don’t be so antisocial! Real life translates outside of facebook and twitter, I swear!

Lastly, I am of the mind that you shouldn’t walk around with earphones all the time. Yes, I’m sure your soundtrack to life is awesome but so are the sounds of the city, life, liberty and the pursuit of city noise!

Alright, I’m getting off my soapbox now.

J, soapbox queen.

Wedding Etiquette

Soooo you get an invite for a wedding and one of the first things that comes to mind is fun…party!!!!!  I know that we should all be thinking that we are honored to watch our loved ones exchange vows, but really…everyone seems to enjoy a good party.  Sometimes though, a good party can be a little too good and people might over indulge on the free booze.

As I mentioned, I attended by college BFF’s wedding this past weekend and there was an open bar with beer and wine only.  I think it was really smart not serving liquor because there were some very drunk people there.  I just don’t understand how you get to that point of stumbling and passing out at someone’s wedding.  I know it can be easy to overindulge in certain situations…but someone’s wedding?!?!  I think it is a little disrespectful and easy to make a fool out of yourself if that situation.

Do everyone a favor and control yourself at weddings.  Hell, even if you are the one getting married you need to control your alcohol intake.  No need to be stumbling down the aisle or falling into your wedding cake.  Anyone have any good drunk wedding stories?  I’d love to hear them!

Ray

To jump or not jump?

I’ve been having a bit of rough week and I’ve started to date someone new. Let’s call him Euro. Can you guess? He’s European. I’m having a great time with him but after an emotional week, I’m starting to fade. Is it too early to tell him I need space? Do I actually need space or am I just freaking out prematurely?

I met Euro a little over a month ago and since then we’ve had a great connection. We spend endless hours talking about a myriad of topics and sharing experiences, it’s been amazing. He treats me very well too! In the short time that I’ve known him, he makes an effort to let me know that he’s thinking about me. For example, after a recent business trip, he brought me a present after I told him a story of how I loved a certain thing. He has also cooks me dinner and we lament over art together. Pretty much he’s a dreamboat for a girl like me. But…

Am I just so cynical that when a man finally treats me well, I don’t know how to recognize it and run away? Am I scared of getting emotionally attached? Has it just been such an emotional time that I need to take a minute and he’s just too available? Did I just complain about someone who cares about me? Yes, yes I did. I’m such a brat.

I love spending time with him. In fact, I miss him when I don’t see him. Mostly, I’m fine hanging out or not hanging out as long as I hear from him. Is that weird? Am I just emotionally drained and not ready to take the plunge?

 

J

Getting a Dog is like Having a Baby

This weekend I was at my college BFF’s wedding.  I was chatting with some friends and mentioned that I’d love to get a dog, but it is as much responsibility as having a baby.  I’d have no social life if I got a dog because I’d literally have to go home everyday after work.  I wouldn’t be able to go to the gym or play volleyball or meet up with J for our Tuesday night happy hours.

If I was to have a baby, that child would be the center of my life and again…not much time to do other things.  So as much as I crave to have a dog of my own, I haven’t gotten to the point in my life yet where I’m willing to not be selfish.  This is also a main reason that I attribute my lack of desire to have a baby.

Will my clock start ticking and will the desire to have a baby overcome my selfishness to have a social life?  I suppose when the right person comes along maybe my views will change.  But at this point…no room for a dog or a baby.

Ray