Feeling Lonely on a Friday Night

The other Friday, Penguin had a fantasy football draft.  I was invited to go over to his friends house while they drafted, but I felt bad leaving Gypsy behind for the second night in a row.

I elected to stay home, but felt weird all day about being home alone on a Friday night.  I realized the other week, that I have no issues staying at home on a Friday night when I have company (aka the Penguin).  When people ask what I did on Friday, I don’t even care when I say just stayed home and watched tv or a movie.  But this Friday, it felt odd.

Then I was getting sad before he left and we joked that I am constantly leaving him alone during the week for dinner.  That just seems different though!

So instead of sitting around and moping, I created a to-do list and knocked things off one by one!  Sometimes going out to drink just takes too much energy.  I like low-key Friday nights.  How do you like to spend your Friday nights?

Ray

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2 More Years?

The other weekend, the Penguin made a comment that I was going to be waiting another 2 years for him to save up before proposing.  I was shocked!  Two years from today, makes me 29 and a half which means we wouldn’t be getting married until I am 30….I’m not that concerned about being married in my 30s, BUT I have a lot of other future plans that will then be conflicting.

1.  Trip to Africa for my 30th birthday

2.  Buying a new house after living in my current place for 5 years (age 31)

3.  The possibility of having children (age 32-34)…getting married at age 30 doesn’t leave a lot of marriage time before having a child!

4.  Other friends getting married!  I don’t want to have too many conflicting weddings!!!!

Mind you, the Penguin is 3 years older than me.  So if we get married when I’m 30, he will be 33 and then he will be in his late 30’s when kids come around (if we have kids) and that seems old!!!  I just don’t understand how it will take an additional 2 years before proposing!

Ray

 

Feeling Alone at Work

It has finally hit me that I do not have friends at work.  It’s starting to get a little sad and lonely.  I have no one to confide in or complain to.  I miss my friends from my old jobs.  I just keep reminding myself that I will make friends!  It is still early and it basically took me going to my first annual meeting at each job to form bonds with people.

My annual meeting here isn’t till November so I hope I might form some bonds before that, but we shall see.  I have a site visit in July which 6 staff members are going on so there could be some good bonding time then!  BUt right now I sit in my office, eating my lunch, writing blog posts.  Sad panda.

The thing that hurt the most was when my colleague (who works for me) asked if I was going to “this lunch thing.”  I responded, “no…what lunch thing?”  His response was, “Oh, that’s awkward, never mind” and he walked away.  I never figured it out.  It wasn’t on anyone’s calendar and it could have been a good bye lunch for someone’s last day, but it definitely made everything that much sadder.

There is a bright side…I got invited to dinner next week when some offsite co-workers are in town.  So that should be fun!  I might make friends after all 🙂

Ray

Is Chivalry Dead?

Taking public transportation has brought to light a whole new world.  One where most chivalry is dead.  I take a bus and a train daily now and let me tell you…it is an all man for themselves type of environment.  People push, shove, take seats without a blink of an eye. It is amazing that only sometimes an elderly person will be offered a seat.

But then you get an occasional glimpse of chivalry.  A man might let you get onto the bus before him or offer you his seat even if he got their first.  Those moments make me smile and realize all is right in the world.  That is until some lady freaks out because she got pushed, but then proceeds to lean on me the whole train ride from Farragut West to Pentagon (on one of the hottest days of the year).  Not cool.

But on a side note, I am loving my new hunter rain boots!  I also enjoy my new waterproof Cole Haan flats.  They are a little tight though so I have to check out pinterest for a stretching technique!  I do need to get a smaller umbrella.  Mine does fit in my purse, but it gets kinda heavy!

Ray

Public Transportation Ettiquette

I have been doing the public transportation thing for 5 months now and have noticed a few things that I can’t seem to wrap my brain around.

1.  Music blaring from headphones- doesn’t it hurt your ears?  If I can hear it, you sure as crap can hear it!!!!!  Then I wonder, do they know everyone can hear their music?   Is my music that loud?

2.  Cell phone conversations….don’t have an extended conversation on your cell phone within a confined space.  I get it you might need to have a quick few minute chat, but is it necessary to talk on the phone from the minute you get on the bus until you get off?  I wouldn’t care so much if the bus wasn’t packed, but you are sitting right next to me so I can hear your whole conversation.

3.  School groups who take the metro during rush hour.  They don’t belong on the metro at that time and they take up a whole lot of space, don’t know how to hold on or get out of the way when people are getting on/off the train.

4.  Overall, I do find most people are very good about standing on the right and walking on the left when it comes to the escalators.  And most people are decent about getting onto the train and moving in to allow everyone to jam themselves into the car.

I have found the need to break down and by rain boots.  I also bought a pair of waterproof ballet flats that I am excited to try out!  I cannot wait until they arrive.  We most likely won’t have rain in the forecast for the foreseeable future now that I am fully prepared to brave the elements.

Ray

 

Work Place Etiquette- Walk, do not Run

I sit in a cubicle near the elevators, kitchen and path to get to the restrooms.  Therefore, I hear a lot of pattering of feet along with tail end of conversations and people yelling back and forth.  I am able to tune all that out when I want to, but also can hone in on the conversations to get some good gossip!

The one thing I dislike though is when someone thinks something is soooooo important they must run from point A to point B.  There is nothing in the realm of this association that should cause anybody to run about the office.

It freaks me out when I hear someone running.  I don’t know if I should jump out of my seat and start running too.  Is there a fire? Terrorist attack? Donuts up for grab in the kitchen? Regardless of the reason, walk do not run in the office.  There is no need except to cause a bit of panic when someone hears you.

Ray

What Does the Word Busy Mean to You?

The other day, my colleague sent me an email from another colleague which infuriated me.  Colleague 1 asked Colleague 2 if they had completed a task yet for an upcoming event.  Colleague 2 said no, too busy with another project.  I know exactly what other project Colleague 2 was referring to and I know exactly how much time it takes to complete said project.  It is absolutely absurd Colleague 2 had the nerve to say “too busy” to have completed this SIMPLE task.

This leads me to ask the question, what does the word busy mean to you?

I had an encounter with a different person at work where she saw me getting ahead and prepared for our upcoming Annual Meeting.  She had the nerve to say, “I wish I had the time to get ahead.”  Mind you, when I used to sit by her she was constantly playing games on her computer whenever I walked by and then would complain about being “so busy.”

I just don’t think people understand what busy means.  Get a clue and grow up.  Get your shit together and stop using the word “busy” as an excuse.  Respond to your emails within a timely fashion and meet the deadlines given to you.  If you are swimming and unable to accomplish these things, shame on you for not going to your supervisor and getting some help.

Sorry, I’m currently in a bad mood.  Okay rant over.

Ray